Failing a New Year’s resolution

Failing a New Year’s resolution isn’t a permanent defeat; for roughly 90% it’s a standard part of the process. In 2026, experts advocate for shifting from rigid resolutions to a sequenced reset that prioritizes clarity over intensity.

  1. Perform an “Honesty Audit”

Before setting new goals, acknowledge what actually happened without self-criticism.

  • Identify Triggers: Determine if people, places, or specific bad habits led to the lapse.
  • Audit Your Time: Review how your days were actually spent in early 2026 versus your original plan. Use these patterns to create more realistic goals.
  • Celebrate Small Wins: Even if the main goal failed, identify minor progress—like exercising more than last year—to build positive momentum.
  1. Sequence Your Reset

Avoid the “January 1st trap” of trying to change everything at once. Use a phased approach to rebuild your foundation:

  • Phase 1: The Cleanup: Close mental and emotional “open loops.” Finish small, lingering tasks that drain your energy, so you have the bandwidth for new efforts.
  • Phase 2: Establish the Infrastructure: Sleep, regular meal patterns, and some form of consistent movement. These are the foundations of maintaining a healthy life.
  • Phase 3: Implementation: Once your energy is steady, introduce new small new habits one at a time.
  1. Reframe the Goal (Quality Over Quantity)

If your initial goal was too vague or ambitious, use these 2026-focused frameworks to adjust:

  • Identity Shifting: Instead of an outcome-based goal (e.g., “lose 10 pounds”), adopt an identity shift, i.e, I am going to cut out eating before bed.
  • SMART Criteria: Ensure new goals are Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-bound.
  • “Anti-Vision”: Define what you don’t want to repeat from your failed attempt to clarify what you are avoiding.
  1. Practice “Pivoting” as a Skill

Resilience in 2026 is defined by the ability to adapt. If a goal isn’t serving you, modifying it is a sign of wisdom, not weakness. Whether it’s scaling back a 12-month goal to a 30-day project or finding a more enjoyable activity, flexibility ensures you stay engaged for the long term.